A Sad Goodbye & The Legacy You Leave

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I shared this in last Saturday’s newsletter.  Thank you for your prayers during this time.  

This week, we said goodbye to a very special man.  Dan’s uncle went home to be with the Lord on Thursday.  He was a pastor for 40 years, an individual Dan looked up to greatly and the man who married us over ten years ago.

You simply never know what a day will hold.  Over the last year, he had many serious health challenges, all of which he had pulled through.

But on this particular day, Dan’s uncle woke up in the morning and went about the usual activities. He simply tripped on a blanket and fell, hitting his head quite hard on the wall.  The impact caused a brain bleed which proved to be unstoppable.

One of his nine children posted this on Facebook:

“To the child of God, there is no such thing as accident. He travels an appointed way. The path he treads was chosen for him…..when as yet he had existence only in the mind of God” A.W. Tozer

Dan’s uncle was 84 years old.  He and his wife had been married for 65 years.  What a beautiful picture of faithfulness.  I was told early on in the day, his wife kept asking if this was her beloved’s crowning day.  Isn’t that just beauty in the moment of trial?  An eternal perspective for sure.

On this crowning day, he didn’t suffer.  He didn’t linger.  But he did leave an incredible legacy.

It was seen in the 74 family members who journeyed to the hospital.

It was heard in the faith-filled hymns that were sung in that ICU room.

It was felt in the comforting comments made by friends.

It will continue in the memories shared at services and this legacy of love and faith left by one man will forever leave its imprint most of all because of his love for Jesus.

I can’t help but think about my mother-in-law at this time and the reunion that has taken place in heaven.  This was her husband’s brother and her sister’s husband.  (Yes, two sisters married two brothers.)  She passed nearly nine years ago and left her own lovely legacy

What kind of legacy will you leave?  Will it be the one you intend?  … This is what I am thinking about it.

“Precious in the eyes of the Lord is the death of his saints.”  Psalm 116:15

 Til we meet again, Uncle Paul!


  1. Hi..just happened to come upon your website and this legacy story..how beautiful..I am in tears…My Dad passed away in February and it reminded me of his and my mother’s enduring love..they were married for 66 years..I miss him so much but know he, too, is rejoicing in Heaven…

    • Hi Diane, I’m so sorry for your loss. It really is bittersweet, isn’t it? We’re so happy for them but we will still miss them. Have you heard Steven Curtis Chapman’s song, With Hope… about grieving with hope because we know we will see them again. (Here is a link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JmyUgsmCzB4).

      And wow, 66 years. What a beautiful testimony of marriage for your family and everyone around them. Thanks so much for sharing, Diane. God Bless!